"I Can't Stand My Husband's Best Friend"
Stocksy
Not everybody who is friends with your significant other is going to be friends with you too, and that's fine. But at the very least, you should expect your S.O.'s friends to behave civilly toward you—and expect your S.O. to stand up for you if they don't. TiredofbeingjudgedHB isn't getting that treatment from her husband John's best friend, Sasha.
"She is always criticizing me and making me feel stupid and small," she wrote on Reddit. "One time, she came to have breakfast with us soon after I left to go the gym—and I usually dress with really colorful leggings, headband, and stuff—and she scoffed while looking at me and told me to 'have fun at the fashion show.'" There are a few other stories like this in the post, including one in which she calls her a "gold digger" because her husband, who makes much more money, largely supports her. Sasha even tried to convince John not to marry her before they got hitched.
TiredofbeingjudgedHB doesn't know what Sasha's deal is or why her husband is even friends with her. "He won't cut his ties with her, and I am not willing to give him an ultimatum but came here to ask if I should," she says. So should she? Here's what Reddit thought.
"Would it be possible to set some boundaries? 'She is not allowed in your home' would be a good one. You shouldn't have to deal with her stuff. I would recommend therapy. It could help to have an impartial mediator who isn't close to either of you or the friend." —Jilltro
"I am rarely ever a fan of ultimatums. Have you tried sitting him down and just airing all of what she has done and how it is affecting you? Calmly? Or making compromises, such as 'she is not allowed in your home' and 'she cannot be invited if you are going out'?" —Imsolost123456789
