"How Can I Get Comfortable Masturbating In Front of My Boyfriend?"
You've Got the Power
As you likely discovered the first time you mastered the art of touching yourself, it's empowering to take your pleasure into your own hands. Now imagine how it would feel to show off your self-loving skills to another person!
Confidence is sexy, and there's nothing sexier than a woman who knows exactly what she wants and how she wants it. Putting on a show for your partner will show him that you're comfortable with your body and in your sexuality, and will make you feel even more powerful as a result.
Show-and-Tell
On top of the numerous erotic benefits, giving your partner a sneak peek into your self-love routine can be a pretty great learning experience. If the goal of sex is to have the hottest and most satisfying experience you can have, then who better to teach him how to please you, than you?
The fact is, new sex partners do not come with an instruction manual. Every person likes different things below the belt, and a little demo goes a long way towards helping him hit the right spot every time. Watching you touch yourself gives him an up-close-and-personal masturbation education! For men, bringing a female partner to orgasm is like rebuilding a car engine; it requires dedication, finesse, experience, and perfect technique. When you show him how to put the puzzle together in half the time, it's like you're handing him a how-to manual for your body... . And you get to enjoy the benefits of him knowing how to get your engines revving just right.
Convinced? Here's How...
In order to make it feel less like a peep show and more like an intimate shared experience, ask your partner to join in on the action. This will take the pressure off you and make you feel more comfortable, helping you to get into it and (hopefully) have an orgasm.
Have him sit behind you so you can lean back against him and encourage him to run his hands all over your body, kiss your neck, and engage other hot spots while you do your thing! Suggest that he put his hand over yours while you massage your clitoris so he can feel exactly what kind of touches and caresses feel best for you. For an even more explosive experience, bring your favorite handheld vibrator into the mix (I love the tongue-shaped Touch by We-Vibe!) and show him how to use it on you.
To switch things up, you can also try mutual masturbation (you may remember this from your pre-intercourse hookup days). Sit facing your partner, either on a couch or the bed, and take turns playing with yourself while the other watches. As you get closer to the edge, hold eye contact and match each other's rhythms to try and bring yourselves to orgasm simultaneously. After that, all that's left to do is snuggle close and share the intimate moment together, knowing you're both satisfied, enlightened, and might even be ready for round two.
