Guyspeak: What It Means When He Doesn't Want to Put a Title on Your Relationship

There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:

Q: After three months, my friend's guy told her he didn't want a title on their relationship because he wanted to "keep an illusion of separation." What does that even mean?! He's been putting in all the effort as a boyfriend but doesn't want to be called one.

A: An "illusion of separation"?

I think I've heard it all at this point. Look, guys spend a lot of time finding new and creative and ways to convince women that they don't need a title. And a lot of men do this to more or less keep their options open. If we don't have an official title, then I'm not bound by the rules of said title.

You may as well tell your friend that her "boyfriend" doesn't really want to be with her. Sure he probably likes to spend time with her, likes how she does certain things and loves sleeping with her. But other than that? Dude is enjoying his freedom.

And whether or not she acknowledges it, dude has his papers. He's a free man. To break it down even further, he really doesn't want to be with her. It's probably not even her fault, it's all him. They're just not meant to be.

When a man truly finds a woman he wants to be with, there is no hesitation on putting a title on a relationship. He'll run toward it--not away from it. Saying some nonsense like "I'd like to keep an illusion of separation" in a relationship makes no sense. Why would ANYBODY who truly wants to be with you want an illusion OR a separation?