Ask a Guy: What Should I Do If You Think My Boyfriend is Flirting With Other Girls on Facebook?

*Dear Single John, I've fallen head over heels for a great guy who is a young college professor. I've never felt more comfortable or trusted someone more, but when he left his FB messages open on his computer the other day, I did a bad thing and peeked at it. I found a conversation with one of his female students that was mostly innocent, but still borderline flirtatious. The conversation ended when she abruptly says that she knows he is in a relationship but she wishes he wasn't her teacher and that they could be together. I confronted my boyfriend and surprisingly, he wasn't mad that I went on his Facebook account. He was very remorseful that he hurt my feelings, but stated that he felt he still didn't feel like he 100 percent in the wrong, especially since he didn't respond to the last message. He's never given me cause to not trust him before, so how can we move forward? *--Shoulda Perused YouTube

Before I say anything to this reader, there's something I want to say to all my readers:

See! This is what happens when you spy on someone's Facebook (or their email, cellphone or what have you). People are entitled to privacy. You are entitled to privacy. Stop being a weirdo and realize that, privacy aside, there are things you will not be able to unread, no matter how badly you want to forget them. The toothpaste cannot be squeezed back into the tube. Respect your significant other enough to observe their privacy.

Let's review the issue here. Professor Sexypants has a student that was "borderline" flirtatious with him? OK. But what does that mean?

Students are programmed to have crushes on their profs. Find one girl who doesn't. In the age of Facebook, it's not completely out of line that he would have a conversation with one of his undergrads on there.